12 Ways Satan Attacks Christian Marriages

I’ve studied spiritual warfare for more than twenty years, and I’m continually reminded of how the enemy attacks Christian marriages. From the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3), he has sought to lure individuals and couples into his traps. He wants to weaken or destroy marriages, and he delights when children are wounded in the process. Without suggesting a “the devil made me do it” philosophy, I list here some of the enemy’s primary tools I’ve seen over the years. 

  1. Neglect – The same couple that spent all their dating time together grows apart after the wedding day. The neglect is usually subtle, though – which is the way the enemy often works.
  2. Sin – We can’t get around this one. Regardless of what the sin is, disobedience that weakens one’s relationship with God also weakens our relationship with our spouse.
  3. Blame – That’s what Adam did in the Garden, and what we often do. When it’s not my fault, I don’t have to worry about changing. My spouse does. 
  4. Selfishness – Too often, couples commit themselves to one another until "death does us part" during the wedding ceremony, but then live as if the other doesn’t exist.
  5. Secrets – Anytime we’re hiding anything – especially from our spouse – the enemy’s winning in some way. Honesty breaks the enemy’s strongholds.
  6. Anger – Many of us have lived this experience. Uncontrolled, unleashed anger can destroy the bond between husband and wife.
  7. Prayerlessness – A couple that does not pray together misses an opportunity to strengthen their marriage. In fact, their prayerlessness says they can handle marriage without God’s help.
  8. Pornography – Increasingly, both males and females struggle with this sin that reduces human beings to an image and implies that our spouses aren't good enough for us. 
  9. Financial fights – That happens especially when we live for wealth and security, most often doing so at the expense of spending quality and quantity time with our spouse.
  10. Offspring trouble – From Genesis 4 (Cain’s killing Abel), the enemy has attacked our children. Too often, their struggles result in conflict between mom and dad.
  11. Adultery – As Satan often does, he magnifies the temporary pleasure of sin over the devastating long-term effects of crossing that line. Families then pay the price for our bad choices.
  12. Divorce – Even with the exception clauses of Matthew 19, we cannot conclude that God ever delights in divorce. The enemy does.

Join me today in praying God’s protection around our marriages. 

 

82 Comments

  • anonymous says:

    Please pray for me and my husband as we are coming under much spiritual attack already after being married just under one year!! Bad arguments to the point of throwing things and saying to each other that we want a divorce. We are a Catholic couple who pray together some times and attend Adoration and weekly Mass. Please pray for us as we will not let the devil win by getting divorced. We are slowly drifting apart which is breaking our spirit. Please dear.Jesus and Mary help us!!
    Your prayers are much appreciated…. thank you!

    • Chuck Lawless says:

      Just prayed for you and your marriage, anonymous.    

      • Anonymous says:

        Please pray for my husband and I. Our marriage is under great attack that has caused my husband to leave the home. We have our ministry together. Please pray for us, we have been married 10 months. There has been bad arguments, verbal abuse, etc. God please help us!

    • Light says:

      Hi Anonymous,

      I want to encourage you to fight for your marriage. My husband and I have been married for a little over than 2 years. Our marriage came under great attack in our first year of marriage. The LORD revealed to me that it was a satanic attack and so my husband and i got serious and began renouncing hurtful words that we had spoken against one another as well as unspoken (harboring in heart). Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal anything that that is causing the divide. Be persistent in taking your authority in Christ to say “NO” to that devil! When we submit to God and resist the devil, he must flee! God bless, your marriage and home are in our prayers.

      • Toussaint says:

        Please pray for my marriage my wife keeps leaving the home and wants a divorce this marriage has been under attack for years it has to be a reason. God has to get the Glory out of this pray for my wife’s mind – the Carringtons

  • mariera george says:

    Please pray for my wife whose mind is under satanic attacks

  • Anonymous says:

    Some of the 12 points you mentioned applies to our 15 years of marriage. Since few months I am having an impression God might want to use our marriage for counselling that’s why enemy is attacking. We need prayer to protect our marriage.

  • Anonymous says:

    We have been married just over 3 years, together for 10. The devil has used addiction to wreak havic on us since day one. We have been living in different towns for a year. NO progress made, and then suddenly we are moving rapidly apart. I love my husband very much, i want him to be happy and healthy. Please pray for us, the devil knew exactly what to use to destroy us, addiction has caused most of the things on your list to come between us, i am still fighting, please pray my husband does too.

  • Anonymous says:

    We need prayers. We are onder serious stubborn satanic attacks( marine spirits) remember us please.

  • Anonymous says:

    I have been separated from my husband for 6 months now and we have two children (4 and 8). I try to be nice and supportive and invite himfor lunch etc but he can’t look at me and just ignores me. He suffers from depression but otherwise functions perfectly ok. I have been loyal. I feel he is in the clutches of Satan with the depression and Satan is influencing his mind. I am so upset. Please pray for him to return home. Thank you x

  • Matt R. says:

    Thank you for this article. I’m happy to report that my marriage is on the mend after both my wife and I repented for our wrongdoing. Nonetheless, I will remain vigilant in fighting against the dark forces.

  • Jennifer says:

    Pray for our marriage my husband is dealing with being verbally abusive and distant. He doesn’t want to be that way but is blinded when it’s happening. He is seeking godly counsel and we are going to fight this. Pray for peace for his mind.

  • Carrie Rico says:

    Please pray for my marriage and family. My husnand is always angry especially towards my son. I pray that he loves my son as his own. I want my husband to take charge and be the Godly man he supposed to be. Pray for peace for his mind & heart. Carrie R

  • Annoymou6 says:

    I am asking for prayer for my marriage of 24 years. Adultery has come into our marriage.

  • The Gary's says:

    I would say I stumbled across this article but I know that God led me here. My marriage is under extreme attack. Often stating a lot of the things others above have mentioned. Hateful arguments, nasty words being said and a lot of anger on both parts. It came to me that our marriage is under attack. Please pray for us.

  • Allen Lawless says:

    Secrets – Anytime we’re hiding anything➖I really like your wording here. ?Consider:Ecclesiastes 12:14 ESV

    For God will bring every deed into judgment, with every secret thing, whether good or evil.

    Also:Romans 2:16 ESV

    On that day when, according to my gospel, God judges the secrets of men by Christ Jesus.

  • Tendai Nyandoro says:

    Pray with me, my wife of a year is constantly fighting me and threatening and says she now wants to leave. She doesn’t like praying with me and is forever looking for things from my past to accuse and attack me with. We have a one year old daughter.

  • Tracy says:

    Please help me pray for my marriage, the devil is at work my husband has been cheating,watching ponohraphy and is not even remorseful. Right now I am not even in our home because there is total confusion and he doesn’t want me there.

  • babygirl says:

    Pray for my marrige i believe God i am the christan one in my home so a lot of times im praying alone but God has all power and the devil is a lier amen

  • giva says:

    I have been married to my husband almost 3 years. He was a true gift God as an earthly husband that I prayed for, for 25 years. We are believers, I have been a believer for many years, my husband about 5. We are active in our church, we pray together most nights, my daughters, the youngest he adopted as she is 15 and my oldest is 26. Both my girls desire to go to Bethels School of Supernatural Ministry and are plugged in. My request is that we are surely under attack. I am feeling neglected and there is little to no communication right now between us. When I try to talk with him he doesnt have anything to say. I am praying in my alone time with God and I am trying to plug into community. I have a church friend coming this morning, not to share all my problems with in a gossip unrespectful way but to seek counsel from a women that puts God first. I am sad and have some fear. I know with all my heart that Jesus DOES NOT give me a spirit of fear but of a sound mind and power of love. I am asking for you to partner with me that God can hold together what no man can separate. I love my husband with a Proverbs 31 heart. thank you in Jesus name..

  • Anonymous says:

    Please pray for my marriage. I just started a fast and seem to be experiencing spiritual warfare. My Husband threw some really big temper today after what I thought wasn’t such a big trigger. He was raising his voice at me and making nasty remarks in front of our young kid. I managed to calm thing down but later, he got very angry again and scolded me. In his anger, he says he wants to go separate ways in how we raise our child.

    Please pray for a God’s intervention and help us to be the kind of parents who edify our child

  • steffy78 says:

    Hi there, just came across this and I’ve been separated from my spouse since May 2016, she firstly mentioned she needed some time to reflect upon our couple, then decided to move out, she stopped going to church as she’d previously done and she’s even met another guy. That guy smokes pot, has huge behavioral issues is kind of bipolar but she’s convinced he’ll change. I’ve become her confidant and whenever things go pear shaped – which is quite often, she calls me. I’ve been told to move on and to get on with loneliness, but it’s a constant struggle, I’ve started going to acupuncture sessions to do away with all evil thoughts I’ve got (suicidal, lack of self confidence, lust). It’s been pretty much beneficial as the acupuncturist is a Christian too, I’m very active prayer wise, go to church as much as I can. I’ve been told it’s not always the right thing to do as I’m not listening to God but rather looking for him to fill in a void left by my wife’s absence. So I’m planning on going on a retreat to take a bit of distance and reflect a little, it’s given me a slight boost in confidence. Please may I ask you to pray for our marriage, I’ve often received this part of scripture “whatever God has put together, let man not separate”, that’s been very consistent. Anyhow I believe in our reconciliation and will keep going and praying.

  • L.Ramos says:

    I need prayer. Just 5 month marriage and husband wants dovorce and leave to another state. He has reasoned that he hs to care for his parents and that he does not like it where we are. I met him in 2011 and it was very hard. Finally in 2016 he reappered in my life and agreed to marry me in the church. I am happy where God moved me but he does not like it. He misses his frineds who are corrupt and heavy sinners. I cannot get him to pray with me as a couple, He finally accepted Jesus in Dec 2014 and got baptized in 2016 a few months before we got married. I have seek counsel on my own with my pastor and his wife. I live in constant attack right in my house. Please help me!

  • Troy says:

    Please pray for my wife and I. She moved out and we are seperated. The enemy is using her right now and she doesn’t even know it. Spewing hurtful language etc. Please pray for restoration of my marriage.

  • daniel chavez says:

    Please pray for me & my fiance. .we are fighting about the most irrelevant things.just this morning we had a huge argument about cereal. She said that I insinuated that I thought she was to good to eat a certain type of cereal..all I did was tell her that I ate government cereal as a child, because we were very poor. I know satan is attacking our relationship. .PLEASE PRAY FOR US

  • Stacy says:

    Please pray for my husband and me. He has filed for divorce and so has his other woman. I will forgive him because I believe in the vows we took. Please pray that God removes the other person and brings my husband back to save our marriage.

  • Arthena says:

    Please pray for my marriage and family. My husband of 19 years recently left me and our 2 girls and moved in with a women. I know that this was an attack by Satan on our family. I know this is not what God wanted for us. Please pray God will remove this woman from his life and that he will get his heart right with God, and come back to his family.

    • Chuck Lawless says:

      We’re praying for you, Arthena. 

      • Anonymous says:

        Pray for me and my marriage and my family that is under severe devil attack which is coming on now for a very long time and I have been fighting this battle alone and now the devil have gone a step further by blinding my husband and he is wanting out of the marriage and it just seems he don’t care wether he is hurting our family or our child he just don’t seem to have any love left in our marriage or family and dont even believe that prayer can save this marriage and refuse any spiritual help all I am asking you to prayer that the Devil can leave my my marriage and family alone

  • Anonymous says:

    Hi guys my significant other is in the occult and I just don’t know what to do he’s getting heavier and heavier into it I think we’re meant to be together but now I just don’t know I feel like I’m losing him bit by bit through alll of this I’m now suffering with anxiety and depression and I just don’t know what to do I don’t know if he trusts me or not but maybe the devils got a hold on him or something please help me I just don’t know what to do I really don’t we’ve been together for 3 years now and not sure whether I should let him go or not please help me

  • Anonymous says:

    From the mouth of my husband, “I think our marriage is under attack by the devil himself”…… We came from two different sides of the track. He a bit more stable and I, not so much. My home life growing up was filled with a lack of stability, abuse of all kinds, poverty, and even the murder of my step mother, her mother, and attempted murder of her mother’s boy friend at the hands of my own father. Needless to say my husband took on a huge responsibility when God lead him to choose me. I was about 20 and he was about 30 when we met. We have been married now for about 12 years and together for about 14. We lost about 3-4 years in the middle but as our married was nearly tore apart due to life’s difficulties and the stress that comes with it. During that time I also went through the worse and most dangerous depression of my life. I imagine it was no picnic for my husband either. This all started right after we had our sweet son. During that time we became two people living in one house and did not want a thing to do with the other. But….. I had spent my whole life asking God for a husband that was Godly, a family that attended church on a regular as a part of life and a stable environment for my future child/children, and to be a working house hold as I did not want to live in poverty anymore. After all these years I believe God gave me that. No marriage is without difficulty and no one is perfect no matter how much to work to please God at the end of the day we are all still sinners. Now, during those 3-4 years I chose not to leave because I would not break my child’s stability/home and I did not want to take my son away from his father or grandparents. My family lives far away so I had no option but to stay to obtain this stability for my son. My husband chose to also be obedient to God and not leave either even though I know he was just as gone as I was. God does not want us to divorce. After the 3-4 bad years, it took us a few more year to rebuild what was damaged. At the end of it all we won the war on our marriage. One day we found our selves talking about those times and together said, these are the same things our grandparents and great grandparents went through and you did not hear of divorce so much back then as you do these days. Today coming from the mouth of my husband and I very much agree, our marriage seems to be under attack once again but this time it is our own family that are causing us problems. Things have been happening with poor timing that make the matters seem worse and with the latest accusation against me I spent the day before providing hard evidence to where I was at a certain time of day and who I was with. My husband at first became upset when first told about this and realistically who wouldn’t? Then as I explained he said there was no need to prove it as (Faith) is believing without seeing. I chose to provide proof anyway so he would have the peace of mind he deserved, to prove this family member wrong, and so this is never questioned again. I would also like to point out that this was not brought to my husband out of legitimate concern, it was brought to him as a vicious attack on me as if this person knew 100% it was me they seen. This is the second time this same person has tried to attack me with something not true. The first time this person tried to accuse me of deleting their messages when they were attempting to reach out to our son and spend time with him. This was also proven wrong and my husband him self set the record straight. I do not know why I am a target but I do know that God, my husband, and myself knows these accusations are not true and that is what matters. How ever it is clear to my husband and myself that our marriage is once again under attack. I am asking for prayer for my marriage, husband, son,this family member, and my self. My husband and I need to strengthen our marriage once more to beat this. Pray that God will surround us with his army of angels and protect us as we fight our way through this. My family would be grateful to you.

  • Tim says:

    Please pray for our marriage. My wife is with another man ,divorce papers have been filed. She blames me for all our problems. Doesn’t want to see me or talk to me. She has stopped reading her Bible. She is under huge stress. The guy she is with an ex-convict. He is influencing her to liquidate our assets.
    She has been a Christian and Bible reader along time. Now I don’t know even know who she is .

  • Anonymous says:

    Please pray for my Husband and I for 7 years we have been married and for seven years our marriage went through infidelity, mistrust, financial problems, porn addiction. Please pray for us.

  • Anonymous says:

    Please pray for my marriage. My husband has been under spiritual attack for the past 7 months, we've only been marriage for 1.5 years. Satan attacking him spiritually, emotionally, mentally, he is tearing our marriage apart. My husband is almost unrecognizable because he's so confused. I have been staying strong for our marriage alone. Pray for us!

  • Anonymous says:

    My wife and I have been married for two years and together for four. Satan uses divide with emotional ties to our children as one way of causing fights, conflict and divide. My wife and I work hard to keep Christ first and have grown vastly in areas the devil attacks us. Prayers please for God to protect and strengthen my family. God Bless.

  • Anonymous says:

    Married for 5 years. My kids, her kids. Same fights for more than 5 years aboute not lovong her kids…. Mine is staying with their mother, so I have them every second weekend. She does not like how I speak to her kids during bible. She thinks I am attacking them. My kids can not use the bathroom in the house. The have to usr the flat's bathroom and toilet. Keep complaining that she don't have money, but keep buying fancy stuff. Have a high ranking post in the police service, and does not submit as a wife. She handles her kid's troubles and if I ask what is going on, her reply woll be.. "I have handled it". I know a side has two stories, but the point is that I am at an all time low point on every thing in my life. I miss my kids and I feel that time is passing by. My kids (set of quadruplets age 15), (and a son of 19) are all treated the same way for 6 years non stop… ..disrespectful. I honor God for this marriage, but this is killing everything inside of me…….

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear sir, please pray for me. as a husband (married over 10 years), i still struggled with almost all that you had mentioned except offspring troubles, financial fights and adultery. Thank you and God bless!

  • Anonymous says:

    Please pray for my Marriage, My wife and I have been married for a year. Last month I started fasting and praying so I rededicated my Life to Christ! Adultery has attacked us but I haven’t stop believing. I’ve been praying she receives the Holy spirit so we can continue our union the right way!

  • Anonymous says:

    pls pray for me . my husband being good christian reads bible going to church started telling we are separated in jesus name. constantly saying we are separated i donno why .. when he gives money he says its alimomy. when i ask he days thats it all over. he gives tithe to church. were married for 10 years 2 boys we have. pls help me as i stand in this spiritual warfare

  • Anonymous says:

    I am believing God to restore my marriage after my husband left over 2 years ago being influenced. We are still married pray for his stony heart. Pray that he forgives me for pushing him away….Thank you…

  • christopher says:

    hi am christopher
    i discovered my wife starting watching romance film and pornography several times a day,she was like addicted to internet..after i discovered all that one day she told me that she doesnt feel anything for me now and she prayed and god told her to leave me…she even told her friends god reveal her that she saw me with another person happier in the future…and there are so much more details to confirm that the devil is stealing her and also attacking my marriage…keep us in your prayers Jesus will deliver her i know he is the only solution…
    PRAY FOR US

  • Aaron says:

    My wife Dionne Monique and myself have been dealing with what I believe are attacks on our marriage and our family. I have been studying the role I have played in this and I recognize some including selfishness, neglect, pornography, and adultery, which have open up doors for demons to manifest within our home. I have asked for the Lord to forgive me of my sins and asked for a new direction. We are both Christians who have allowed our minds to control us instead of letting God direct us. She recently told me that she thinks we should separate because she is not happy. I suggested that we seek Christian counseling. She refused and she is headstrong about living separately, which is just a step in the direction of divorce. Mind you, most of my actions, except for pornography, which I have had issues with on and off for a while were out of anger of her thinking that this sudden desire to separate is due to her seeing other men. We had been married prior to this, but the marriage ended in divorce. She told me that she was in love with another man. So, this trust factor has been nagging at me and has caused me to retaliate by sleeping with other women and just blaming my wife for this big problem. I don’t want my marriage destroyed. I am a Christian who is not perfect, who has asked for forgiveness, and wants to protect and preserve my marriage. Please pray for us. Aaron

  • Anonymous says:

    Hi. Me and wife are going through some problems every time I pray and the church and pastor pray for our marriage. Its getting worse. I trust in God. But its seem that Satan comes up winning. Need your help

  • Anonymous says:

    Please pray for my marriage and my husband. He has not spoken to me for the second half of our marriage of 8 months.

  • Anonymous says:

    Please pray for healing…My wife did basically every thing on that list to me, (in shockingly the same order too!) and has now left me for another man…she hung out with the wrong people against God's will for her, and against my advisory, and now she's gone…it's been very difficult trying to cope. I miss her, but at the same time, I know that there was nothing left that I could do…it ended up being her decision to rebel against both God and me…please pray for her soul, as I'm not sure if she's saved anymore…and for my healing…times are hard…

  • anonymous says:

    im reaching out to all my brothers and sisters of Christ. please pray for me and my wife to be in the same accord and recognize the enemy at work we have been married going on 2 years and she married into my daughters from a previous marriage. she has anger toward them to the point if saying she hates them now has been reaching out to her ex boyfriend and even meeting up with him we can do all things threw Christ who strengthen us my marriage needs strength thank you

  • Unknown says:

    My wife and I are in need of prayer after 14yrs of marriage, I know that Satan is trying to separate us in the form a person, this person is coming between us she is being influenced by this person. I am looking to get some spiritual help this is a very intense fight she is at the point that she is begging for a divorce. Her family doesn’t know who she is anymore. I would really appreciate your prayers in my situation. Thank You

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