When I do church consultations, I always interview the church staff. In those interviews, I often hear from staff members who’ve never felt comfortable telling their pastor all they’d like to say. Of course, they do need to talk to their pastor – but nevertheless, here are some of the things they’d like to say:
- Pray with me individually. It’s great that you pray with us as a staff, but I need to hear you praying for me. I want you to ask about my personal concerns.
- Involve me in determining the church’s vision. You’re the leader, but I want to be part of the team. If you just hand me the vision, you’re asking me to implement a plan I’ve not helped develop.
- Don’t micromanage me. You hired me to do a job based on my training and expertise. Walk alongside me, but trust me.
- Watch my back. I won’t do everything perfectly. Somebody will get upset with me and come to you before talking to me. Please stand by me.
- Know the names of my family. I realize our families may not spend much time together, but it means a lot to me if you know the names of my spouse and children.
- Ask me once in a while, “How can I help you be the person God wants you to be?” Sometimes I need you to be my shepherd rather than my boss.
- Require me to take my time off. I may not always take my scheduled time off. You can help me by holding me accountable for rest.
- Go to bat for me regarding salaries and benefits. I’m not usually in the meetings where folks make such decisions. Help me by speaking up on my behalf.
- Tell me where I need to improve, and then help me get there. I can’t grow unless I know my weaknesses. Point them out to me – but do it in a way that helps me improve.
- Allow me to get more training. Help me continue to grow by leading the church to give me time (and maybe even tuition) for further education.
- Stop by my office occasionally. I’m happy to come to your office when you need me, but it’s nice when you just drop in my office.
- I don’t say it enough, but I really appreciate you. I truly am grateful for you.
What things would you add to this list?
