Because I wasn’t raised in a Christian family, I watch for role models of Christian leaders who love their family well. Here are some examples I’ve seen from different leaders over the years:
- Giving their family veto power over their schedule. Everyone had to be willing to sacrifice and compromise to make this work, but their family never felt left out on the outside.
- Prioritizing vacation time. It’s one thing never to take a vacation. It’s another thing to take a vacation but never really rest. It’s still another thing to take a vacation and focus on the family the entire time. The leaders I’m thinking about always did the latter.
- Praying with them. The prayers aren’t always long—e.g., one leader who comes to mind prays briefly with his family over the breakfast table each morning. Family prayer is non-negotiable for him, though.
- Holding hands with their spouse. Increasing age doesn’t change the pattern, either. In fact, holding hands can be a sweet, comforting reassurance for any couple. And, it models something for next generations.
- Taking a day off on their spouse’s and children’s birthdays. Blocking off days a year in advance sends the right signal to their family, and then focusing on them on their birthdays only confirms that commitment.
- Honoring them publicly from the pulpit. I’ve heard far too many leaders use their families as unhelpful illustrations in their teachings, but I’ve also heard far too few talk positively and lovingly about them. Public affirmation matters.
- Praying daily for them. Their family hears them pray with them, but these leaders also pray for their families on their own. That’s a quiet time that makes a difference over the generations.
Some of my new year resolutions. Thanks brother