Let me start this post with three caveats. First, I’m an older adult (64), still a few years away from retirement. Still, I include myself in the group of people who need to be willing to change. Second, I’m not arguing that we need to change everything. I’m not talking about compromising the gospel here. There is much good we can learn from older generations, and each generation needs the others. In fact, my third caveat is that younger generations need to understand the value of tradition, too. They need not run from everything older generations have done in the church.
Nevertheless, here are some reasons we older folks in church need to be willing to change.
- What we do as believers is not about us in the first place. Nor is it about young people, either, by the way. It’s about honoring God in such a way that others might want to follow Him. Our preferences we tend to defend don’t matter as much when we get that point right.
- Change may be uncomfortable, but we know it’s not always bad. We didn’t always have a clock . . . or a car . . . or a computer . . . or robotic instruments used in surgery. If we’re honest, we know that some change actually promotes good, including in the church. I’m glad, for example, that we can use technology to reach people we wouldn’t have opportunity to reach twenty years ago.
- Few changes are actually as painful as we think they’re going to be. Quite often, what we project will happen when the change occurs is not what actually happens. Once we get through the seeming “trauma” of change, the new routine is often okay.
- Our legacy depends on it. Let me be frank: if many churches don’t change, they are going to die. The problem is that nobody thinks it’s going to happen on his or her watch – but my generation will likely see tens of thousands of churches close. To allow a congregation to die just because we like things the way they are is nothing less than unchristian selfishness.
- Our children and grandchildren need our example. They don’t know it yet, but the young people calling for change now will be old themselves some day. We need to model for them today how to navigate change well for the sake of the gospel.
- An unwillingness to change reveals our idolatries. That’s a tough word, I know. But, anything not mandated by Scripture that we are unwilling to change for God’s glory is an idol. That’s a problem.
- The nations need us to sacrifice. If we don’t reach young people, we’ll someday have no pool out of which to send the next generation of pastors and missionaries. To reach those next generations, we must be willing to change without compromising the gospel.
If you’re an older reader, I really do get it. The older I get, the less I like change. On the other hand, I also more intensely recognize the urgency to reach people as I get older. We get only one shot at this work, and I don’t want my preferences (and, sometimes, my stubbornness) to hinder the work of the gospel.
I can tolerate change if people are reached and lives are transformed because the gospel is preached. In fact, I can accept and rejoice with the change, even. It’s really that simple.

Of course, I’m talking about legitimate change. My experience is that a lot of young folks actually want to strengthen what we’re doing. Thanks, Carroll.
I’m not at all arguing against using hymns. I would argue against an unwillingness to use contemporary music at all, though. Some contemporary music is fine, as you note — in fact, it’s often theologically richer than some hymns. All generations need the others.
It’s tough to talk about a specific change without using a specific illustration, but here are a few areas where I think we have to be open to conversations: worship style, small group structure, technology use, worship times, weeknight services. I’m not advocating for anything that compromises or weakens the gospel.
Thanks, Ginger. I’ve previously written to young people as well at https://chucklawless.com/2014/06/10-things-young-church-leaders-need-hear-us/, https://chucklawless.com/2014/08/words-advice-young-church-leaders/. I do agree that we have responsibility to disciple those younger than we.
Thank you Ginger–I agree with you. I have mentored and taught young and older women for many years with truth and love. To God’s glory, I find that they learn to desire to know, love and follow Christ. Change does not become so important but then their desire is to have others follow the example that is set before us in Scripture. That is what does become important. There is a question posed in Song of Solomon by some women, “What is thy beloved more than another beloved, O thou fairest among women? what is thy beloved more than another beloved, that thou dost so charge us?” Then she tells them about him, to which they reply; “Whither is thy beloved gone, O thou fairest among women? whither is thy beloved turned aside? that we may seek him with thee.” When the younger ask, my prayer, to show them the old paths (Jeremiah 6:16) where they will find our Beloved Lord walking Who changes not.
Thanks, Nancy, for your input.
Thanks, Howard, for your thoughts.
Thanks, Micah.
Thanks for writing.
Thanks, Veronica.
Young people should not judge the old hymns as empty tradition and older people should not judge young people’s music as empty entertainment.