Maybe Monday is not the best day for this post, but here goes.
I’ve written previously about strange things people have said to me as a pastor or as a consultant. Sometimes it seems people will say just about anything . . . so, I thought I’d write a post about things I wish I could say aloud at times, but know better. Here are some of them.
- “Do you ever read the bulletin or listen to the announcements?” It’s amazing what people don’t hear even though you’ve gone overboard to communicate.
- “Do you even have a mirror?” You know the people who cause you to think this way . . . .
- “Do you really think you can sing?” I can still remember when I first thought this thought. The music that day really was “special.”
- “Oh, no, there she is.” That’s the way you feel when that certain bothersome church member comes your way.
- “Would you please just grow up?” Believers who get stunted in their spiritual growth tend to whine a lot.
- “I wish you had not come today.” I’m just being honest – some members bring only gloom and negativity with them.
- “You’re wrong. We let him go because ______________.” I understand why we protect staff and leaders we ask to step down, but sometimes it would be nice to tell the whole truth just to justify our position.
- “I just don’t want to do this today.” These kinds of Sundays don’t happen often, but they do happen.
- “He’s not the pastor here anymore.” It seems some pastors who were once criticized become saints after they’re gone . . . .
- “Why do you keep coming if you’re so unhappy here?” I’ve never fully understand why miserable church people seem to feed off the conflict.
I confess my sinful heart here. On the other hand, I do bite my tongue hard sometimes to keep from sinning more, knowing that words really can be destructive.
How about you – what do you wish you could say, but don’t?